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Writer's pictureShaayah Bryant

Finding Your Frequency

Updated: Jul 23, 2023

Welcome back to the Cultivation Station! Prepare to be challenged to show up as and grow into your most authentic self. Perfection is not a requirement, but honesty is!

Finding Your Frequency is the first installment of our Frequency Series. This world functions through energetic exchanges and the frequency that you operate in serves as your energetic signature in the world. Each interaction that you have leaves the mark of your signature - whether it be negative or positive. In this series, you will learn more about your frequency, how to adjust it, how to maintain it, and how to raise it.

As humans are made of at least 70% water, your vibrations can be determined by your emotions. For context, the moon represents your subconscious in astrology. As it changes signs astrologically every 2.5 days, it influences the tides of water and by default, humans as well, due to the high water content in our bodies. The chart to the right displays the correlation between emotions and their corresponding frequency in Hz.


Using the Emotional Frequency Scale, you can pinpoint your frequency by being aware of the emotions that you tend to have, the music you tend to listen to, and the conversations you have on a daily basis. Finding your frequency requires heightened self-awareness and honesty on your end, which is work in itself.


Self-cultivation requires self-awareness, which then requires self-reflection. Although it sounds simple, making the choice to be self-aware requires you to strip every lie you've told yourself and face the truth of who you are - the good, the bad, and the ugly. For some, it could take weeks, months, even years before reaching a point of honesty. This is the shadow work that many have spoken of.

As with most things in this world, there is a duality within ourselves - our shadow self and our light self. The saying of "That which is done in the dark will come to the light" is accurate because no matter how hard or fast you try to run from your shadow self, it will always find a way to catch up to you. Your shadow self includes the parts of you that you tend to hide from others while your light self comprises of the parts you feel confident to show to others. Things in our shadow tend to get placed there due to feelings of shame, guilt, and fear.


For example, a people pleaser may hide the fact that they strongly dislike being seen as reliable because it leads to them always being asked to complete a task. In reality, they have the choice to tell the asker that they do not want to do the task, but because they do not want to disappoint the asker, the people pleaser ends up doing the task anyway. Holding onto negative feelings in an attempt to please others will always lead to self-neglect as the people pleaser is affirming that the others' feelings are more important than their own. Unfortunately, the different elements in our shadow typically do not make themselves known until a trigger happens so the people pleaser may not understand these feelings they are having until they get overwhelmed and blow up on someone who expects them to take on another task. This is why self-reflection and self-awareness is so necessary during the process of self-cultivation.

Two practices that have stayed consistent through my journey of self-cultivation and self-awareness have been meditation and journaling. My meditation sessions typically begin with deep breathing to help ground me. During the meditation, the trick is to just allow your thoughts to flow. You are not supposed to sit in your mind with zero thoughts, but rather take note of what does float through your mind. If something intrusive comes up, I say goodbye to it within your mind while reinforcing that that is not my thought. At the end of my meditation, I follow up with journaling to write down my thoughts and to record what came emotions came up the most during my meditation.

However, journaling is not just restricted to being an after meditation activity. Often times, our mind can become so clouded with thoughts that we become overwhelmed or even anxious. Daily journaling can help to reduce the clutter in our minds by releasing those thoughts onto paper. Sometimes I write about my day and sometimes I write about how I feel. Other times the ideas that have been bouncing in my head find their way to my paper. I am saying this to emphasize that there is no correct way to journal. An alternative to journaling is speaking to yourself via voice notes if you find that you cannot make time to sit down and write. A voice note can be done while driving home in the car or doing dishes.


For some, other practices like yoga can help achieve self-awareness. One thing to remember is that everyone is different so what works for others may not work for you. Learn more about yourself by researching and trying new practices. Stick by what works and leave what doesn’t. Click here to book my Spiritual 1:1 service if you'd like to discuss what is needed for your selfish cultivation. As always, my spiritual services are donation-based as I will never turn down someone in need.

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